A number of times throughout the year, 412 Ministries will host events that we believe will equip you as parents to parent effectively in our changing world. These are FREE events!
Parent Night: Thursday, January 19, 2023
We are excited to bring in Pastor Thaleai Sawatsky, Care Pastor of Northview Community Church, to talk to us on the topic
Truth and Grace: A thoughtful response to the LGTBQ youth community. More information will be coming soon!
Registration is required.
412 Ministry Leader Registration (Dinner)
Cost: non-perishable food items for The Pantry at Gateway. The Pantry continues to minister to those impacted by last years flooding and now we are ministering and providing food to local Ukrainian Refugees.
6:15-7:15 - Dinner and Q&A for 412 Ministry Leaders (closed Session)
7:30-9:00 - Large Group Teaching followed by Q&A
For the Q & A: During the Q & A period you can text in your questions. There will be no open mic.
Who is Thaleia Sawatzky?
Hi everyone! My name is Thaleia Sawatzky. I have served as the Pastor of Care at Northview Community Church here in Abbotsford for the past 10 years. I have my Masters degree in Counselling Psychology and I use this training at Northview to walk alongside people who are struggling, and to train our staff and congregants in a variety of areas including: mental health, grief/loss, marriage/parenting challenges and LGBTQ. Currently I am teaching a course called Grace & Truth: 10 conversations every thoughtful Christian should have about faith, sexuality and gender.
I am married to Mark, who is an accountant in town, and we have 2 adult kids.
Assistance if needed...
Summit Youth, grade 9-12, desires that ALL youth feel known and loved. We realize that the large groups, loud noises and the hyper enviroment is not the desire for every youth. Some youth need a quiet space and more focused attention. To help us accomplish this desire, we now have an IEP at our Summit Thursday nights. Brian V is highly qualified to spend the time needed with your teen if needed.
To assist Brian in his ministry we ensure that our Quiet (sensory) Room is availabe on Thursday nights or Brian will join your teen in the Mentorship Group as needed.
Parent Resources available to you
As parents, we can use all the help we can get to navigate parenting. Here are a number of books that might be of interest to you as a parent. Use this as a virtual LIBRARY. If there is a book here that you would like to 'check-out' and read, just email Pastor Marcel and he will make sure it's available to you the following Sunday.
A 18 page guide to discipling our teens. Document includes helpful resources, discussion questions and more.
Engage your teen's world
Rise above Fear to Create True Connection
Netflix and chill, broccoli, and LGBTTQQIAAP+. If you don't know what these words and phrases really mean to your teen, you are not alone. The verbal terrain of today's youth can be difficult to navigate, and sometimes requires a guide--a culture translator to help parents of teens decipher the codes and unlock the doors to an ongoing conversation about faith and life.
Engaging Your Teen's World will teach you how to maintain open communication about everything from relationships to technology and media in order to help teens grow in their faith and successfully deal with difficult issues. The authors bring a wealth of frontline experience, sharing a big-picture view of your teen's world and how to interact with it, followed by more specific information on
· what your teen is thinking, doing, and watching
· wise boundaries with devices, video games, and social media
· conversations about sex, gender, porn, sexting, and vaping
· and much more
Despite the many challenges facing teens and their parents, this frank, insightful, and practical book offers a hopeful view toward the long-term goals of your relationship with your teen and their relationship with the Lord.
Sticky Faith delivers positive and practical ideas to nurture within your kids a living, loving faith that lasts a lifetime.
Research indicates that almost half of high school seniors drift from their faith after graduation.
Struck by this staggering statistic, and recognizing its ramifications, the Fuller Youth Institute (FYI) conducted the "College Transition Project" in an effort to identify the relationships and best practices that can set young people on a trajectory of lifelong faith and service.
This easy-to-read guide presents both a compelling rationale and a powerful strategy to show parents how to actively encourage their children’s spiritual growth so that it will stick with them into adulthood and empower them to develop a living, lasting faith.
Written by Fuller Youth Institute Executive Director Dr. Kara E. Powell and youth expert Chap Clark--authors known for the integrity of their research and the intensity of their passion for young people--Sticky Faith is geared to spark a movement that empowers adults to develop robust and long-term faith in kids of all ages.
Parenting in the Pew
Solid practical solutions for parents who want to help their kids fully engage in Sunday morning worship.
Irreversable Damage - currently checked out
Until just a few years ago, gender dysphoria—severe discomfort in one’s biological sex—was vanishingly rare. It was typically found in less than .01 percent of the population, emerged in early childhood, and afflicted males almost exclusively.
But today whole groups of female friends in colleges, high schools, and even middle schools across the country are coming out as “transgender.” These are girls who had never experienced any discomfort in their biological sex until they heard a coming-out story from a speaker at a school assembly or discovered the internet community of trans “influencers.”
Unsuspecting parents are awakening to find their daughters in thrall to hip trans YouTube stars and “gender-affirming” educators and therapists who push life-changing interventions on young girls—including medically unnecessary double mastectomies and puberty blockers that can cause permanent infertility.
Abigail Shrier, a writer for the Wall Street Journal, has dug deep into the trans epidemic, talking to the girls, their agonized parents, and the counselors and doctors who enable gender transitions, as well as to “detransitioners”—young women who bitterly regret what they have done to themselves.
Coming out as transgender immediately boosts these girls’ social status, Shrier finds, but once they take the first steps of transition, it is not easy to walk back. She offers urgently needed advice about how parents can protect their daughters.
A generation of girls is at risk. Abigail Shrier’s essential book will help you understand what the trans craze is and how you can inoculate your child against it—or how to retrieve her from this dangerous path.
Something scary is happening to boys today. From kindergarten to college, American boys are, on average, less resilient and less ambitious than they were a mere twenty years ago. The gender gap in college attendance and graduation rates has widened dramatically. While Emily is working hard at school and getting A’s, her brother Justin is goofing off. He’s more concerned about getting to the next level in his videogame than about finishing his homework. Now, Dr. Leonard Sax delves into the scientific literature and draws on more than twenty years of clinical experience to explain why boys and young men are failing in school and disengaged at home. He shows how social, cultural, and biological factors have created an environment that is literally toxic to boys. He also presents practical solutions, sharing strategies which educators have found effective in re-engaging these boys at school, as well as handy tips for parents about everything from homework, to videogames, to medication.
Why gender matters
Twelve years ago, Why Gender Matters broke ground in illuminating the differences between boys and girls–how they perceive the world differently, how they learn differently, how they process emotions and take risks differently. Dr. Sax argued that in failing to recognize these hardwired differences between boys and girls, we ended up reinforcing damaging stereotypes, medicalizing bad behavior, and failing to support kids to reach their full potential. In the intervening decade, the world has changed drastically, with an avalanche of new research which supports, deepens, and expands Dr. Sax’s work. This revised and updated edition includes new findings about how boys and girls interact differently with social media and video games; a new discussion of research on gender non-conforming, LGB, and transgender kids, new findings about how girls and boys see differently, hear differently, and even smell differently; and new material about the medicalization of misbehavior.
Making conscientious choices about technology in our families is more than just using internet filters and determining screen time limits for our children. It's about developing wisdom, character, and courage in the way we use digital media rather than accepting technology's promises of ease, instant gratification, and the world's knowledge at our fingertips. And it's definitely not just about the kids.
Drawing on in-depth original research from the Barna Group, Andy Crouch shows readers that the choices we make about technology have consequences we may never have considered. He takes readers beyond the typical questions of what, where, and when and instead challenges them to answer provocative questions like, Who do we want to be as a family? and How does our use of a particular technology move us closer or farther away from that goal? Anyone who has felt their family relationships suffer or their time slip away amid technology's distractions will find in this book a path forward to reclaiming their real life in a world of devices.
Everyone wants to be loved--to find someone who will stick with them through all of life's ups and downs, someone who is in it for the long haul. But in a world where dating is increasingly based on split-second decisions and geared toward casual relationships rather than marriage, it's easy for single people to feel discouraged, used, or unworthy of true love and lasting affection. Reality just never seems to match up with our (often wildly unrealistic) expectations.
Jonathan "JP" Pokluda has counseled thousands of young singles through the pain and heartbreak of dating the world's way. Now he wants to dispel the myths, misconceptions, and fairy tales you've believed about dating and replace them with the truth from the One who invented marriage, created you to crave relationship, and is the very embodiment of true love. With plenty of true stories about relationships healed and love found, this practical book explains God's purposes for singleness, dating, and marriage and covers why you should date, who you should date, and how you should date.
If you're ready to trade the world's way of dating for the way that actually works, it's time to begin dating well.
Liturgy of the Ordinary
In overlooked moments and routines, we can become aware of God's poresence in surprising ways. How do we embrace teh sacred in teh ordinary and the ordinary in the sacred.
Faith Begins at Home
A book for parents that will inspire, motivate, and equip them to establish their home as the primary place where faith is nurtured. This book is filled with inspirational stories and practical ideas that families can begin implementing today to bring Christ and Christlike living into the center of their homes. This resource is a perfect gift to give to new parents. Discussion questions at the end of each chapter make it a perfect resource for family small groups.
Boundries with Teens
The teen years can be challenging and even scary for parents and those involved with youth. Attitudes and behaviors of the adolescent can be unhealthy for him and for the family. However, good boundaries are the bedrock of not only better relationships, but also maturity, safety, and growth - especially for teens and their parents. In order to help teenagers grow into healthy adults, parents and youth workers need to help them experience how to take responsibility for their behavior, their values, and their lives. Dr. John Townsend, co-author of the Gold Medallion Award-winning book Boundaries, is a parent of two teenagers himself. With wisdom and empathy, he applies his biblically based principles to bear on the challenging task of the teen years, showing parents: how to deal with disrespectful attitudes and irresponsible behaviors in your teen; how to set healthy limits and realistic consequences; how to be loving and caring while establishing rules; and how to determine specific strategies to deal with problems both big and small.
The collapes of parenting
In this New York Times bestseller, one of America's premier child psychologists offers a must-read account of the dismal state of parenting today, and a vision for how we can better prepare our children for the challenges of the adult world
In The Collapse of Parenting, internationally acclaimed author Leonard Sax argues that rising levels of obesity, depression, and anxiety among young people can be traced to parents abdicating their authority. The result is children who have no standard of right and wrong, who lack discipline, and who look to their peers and the Internet for direction. Sax shows how parents must reassert their authority - by limiting time with screens, by encouraging better habits at the dinner table, and by teaching humility and perspective - to renew their relationships with their children. Drawing on nearly thirty years of experience as a family physician and psychologist, along with hundreds of interviews with children, parents, and teachers, Sax offers a blueprint parents can use to help their children thrive in an increasingly complicated world.